Mom guilt can set in very quickly when you are a working mom. Possibly missing big stepping stones in your kids’ lives or just being too tired when you get home and not always being able to give them 100% of your energy. Even though I know I am doing my part in providing for my kids and my family, it has never gotten easier for me to be a working mom.
I catch myself envying stay at home moms. Wishing I could have that same opportunity to be with my kids every day. Wondering if they are being well taken care of at preschool and daycare. Fearful of the childcare system when I hear about another abused child on the news or on my fb feed. But the reality is, in this day and age, being a working mom is pretty much the new normal.
When my son was born (my first), everyone told me that it would be so hard to go back to work and leave him at daycare at such a young age (12 weeks old). That “they wouldn’t be able to do it.” Some of them told me that they flat out told their husbands “I am staying home with the kids so figure it out.” But unfortunately that just wasn’t in the cards for me. At the time we were living in New Jersey and paying entirely too much for a small 2 bedroom apartment and barely making ends meet. Staying home was 100% a no go for me. (and now with two kids its 10000% a no go)
I have to constantly remind myself that when I am with my kids, that they are loved. That they are blessed with what they need in life and then some. That even though I am not with them all day long we still have a very strong bond. That I cannot let outside opinions (or my own guilt at times) make me feel as though I am doing something wrong. This is my reality. My life. I remind myself of all of the blessings that have come my way. And most importantly that my Kiddos love me. And regardless of any outside opinions…THAT is what matters. ❤