Birth control is something I have never had much luck with. I have tried the Depo shot and for a very brief time I also used the pill. The issue that I had with them was that the hormones in them were way too much for me; And I had to get off of them for my emotional well being. Fast forward to May of 2017. At the time my son was 3 and my daughter was just born. We had our boy and our girl and we decided that some form of birth control would be best. Another baby was not in the plans for the next couple of years.
I was hesitant on which form of B.C to go with. I knew that the pill was not an option for me (I am very forgetful) and that the shot and implant were also out. When I went in for my 6 week check up after having my daughter the Dr. said great things about the Mirena. She said its an intrauterine device that is good for 5 years. That it is 99% effective and that even though it does have hormones, the hormones stay in the uterus and will not effect my mood. This seemed like the best way for me to go. So I made the appointment for insertion day.
I was told that the insertion process was very quick and that I wouldn’t feel much of anything. When in reality, it feels like labor pains. Contractions. Extremely uncomfortable. It only lasts for about 5 minutes but it is brutal. Then you are sent home with all of these high hopes on how easy and effortless the next 5 years are going to be with your new Mirena. Little did I know that this little device would cause me so much discomfort in just a few weeks.
Chest pain, splitting headaches, acne, fatigue, mood swings. Just a few of the symptoms I started to experience with the IUD. The chest pains were so bad that I went to the emergency room where they ran tests and they all came back normal. I knew it had something to do with the IUD at that point. I had an appointment to get the strings checked to make sure the IUD was still in place. The strings could not be found. So they had to do an ultra sound to find that the IUD had moved but tried to make me feel better by saying that it is still effective.
Knowing that there is a foreign object in my body that is moving around and causing me all of these health concerns, the decision to get it removed was a no brainier. The removal process was quick and painless. I was told that my body would go back to normal in about 30 days from the removal. The headaches stopped, I am getting my energy back, I do not have acne anymore and my mood is also better. Getting it removed was the best choice for me!
This is my personal experience with the IUD, I wish that it had worked out for me but unfortunately that just wasn’t the case. Doing further research I found that there are a lot of women out there who have had it much worse than I did with the IUD. If you are considering this form of B.C for yourself, please do your research and make sure to ask your Dr. the ins and outs of this IUD.
Mom guilt can set in very quickly when you are a working mom. Possibly missing big stepping stones in your kids’ lives or just being too tired when you get home and not always being able to give them 100% of your energy. Even though I know I am doing my part in providing for my kids and my family, it has never gotten easier for me to be a working mom.
I catch myself envying stay at home moms. Wishing I could have that same opportunity to be with my kids every day. Wondering if they are being well taken care of at preschool and daycare. Fearful of the childcare system when I hear about another abused child on the news or on my fb feed. But the reality is, in this day and age, being a working mom is pretty much the new normal.
When my son was born (my first), everyone told me that it would be so hard to go back to work and leave him at daycare at such a young age (12 weeks old). That “they wouldn’t be able to do it.” Some of them told me that they flat out told their husbands “I am staying home with the kids so figure it out.” But unfortunately that just wasn’t in the cards for me. At the time we were living in New Jersey and paying entirely too much for a small 2 bedroom apartment and barely making ends meet. Staying home was 100% a no go for me. (and now with two kids its 10000% a no go)
I have to constantly remind myself that when I am with my kids, that they are loved. That they are blessed with what they need in life and then some. That even though I am not with them all day long we still have a very strong bond. That I cannot let outside opinions (or my own guilt at times) make me feel as though I am doing something wrong. This is my reality. My life. I remind myself of all of the blessings that have come my way. And most importantly that my Kiddos love me. And regardless of any outside opinions…THAT is what matters. ❤
As a Mom I sometimes feel as though that is all that defines me. When I am asked about how I am doing my response is usually something like “I’m good . The kids are…” followed by their sleep schedule or how fast time has just flown by. How I feel like it was just yesterday that they were born. It’s very easy to get lost in the day to day routine of waking up , making breakfast, dropping them off to school and so on.
It’s easy go forget that “wait a minute…I am more then just Cruz and Chloes mommy.” Don’t get me wrong . Being their mommy is the most incredible gift I could of ever been given. But I have to remind myself that it’s ok to be Laurent the smart, funny , nerdy , sometimes sassy women who just happens to have the privilege of having two amazing babies and a wonderful hubby.
This blog is a just one of the ways that I have decided to start exploring myself again and getting out of my comfort zone to see what Laurent is really made of. I challenge you mommy’s out there to try something new today. Join that dance class that you have always wanted to join. Or start painting again or writing again. Whatever it is that you have been putting off because “I could never” or “I don’t have the time”. Explore yourselves, get to know yourselves outside of the mommy bubble. You might be surprised at the amazing things you could accomplish.
Leave a comment letting me know one thing you have always wanted to do or get back into. Let’s get to know each other. And by the way (incase no one has told you today), you are an amazing mommy (or daddy) . You are doing a great job ❤
Hello. My name is Laurent. I am a mommy of two. A working mom. And a wife. I was inspired to start a blog to share my experiences as a Mom to facilitate a safe space where moms can go and not feel judged and can have conversations about the wonderfully glorious, yet sometimes horrifying aspects of what it really means to be a Mom.
More to come ❤