Mom guilt can set in very quickly when you are a working mom. Possibly missing big stepping stones in your kids’ lives or just being too tired when you get home and not always being able to give them 100% of your energy. Even though I know I am doing my part in providing for my kids and my family, it has never gotten easier for me to be a working mom.
I catch myself envying stay at home moms. Wishing I could have that same opportunity to be with my kids every day. Wondering if they are being well taken care of at preschool and daycare. Fearful of the childcare system when I hear about another abused child on the news or on my fb feed. But the reality is, in this day and age, being a working mom is pretty much the new normal.
When my son was born (my first), everyone told me that it would be so hard to go back to work and leave him at daycare at such a young age (12 weeks old). That “they wouldn’t be able to do it.” Some of them told me that they flat out told their husbands “I am staying home with the kids so figure it out.” But unfortunately that just wasn’t in the cards for me. At the time we were living in New Jersey and paying entirely too much for a small 2 bedroom apartment and barely making ends meet. Staying home was 100% a no go for me. (and now with two kids its 10000% a no go)
I have to constantly remind myself that when I am with my kids, that they are loved. That they are blessed with what they need in life and then some. That even though I am not with them all day long we still have a very strong bond. That I cannot let outside opinions (or my own guilt at times) make me feel as though I am doing something wrong. This is my reality. My life. I remind myself of all of the blessings that have come my way. And most importantly that my Kiddos love me. And regardless of any outside opinions…THAT is what matters. ❤
As a Mom I sometimes feel as though that is all that defines me. When I am asked about how I am doing my response is usually something like “I’m good . The kids are…” followed by their sleep schedule or how fast time has just flown by. How I feel like it was just yesterday that they were born. It’s very easy to get lost in the day to day routine of waking up , making breakfast, dropping them off to school and so on.
It’s easy go forget that “wait a minute…I am more then just Cruz and Chloes mommy.” Don’t get me wrong . Being their mommy is the most incredible gift I could of ever been given. But I have to remind myself that it’s ok to be Laurent the smart, funny , nerdy , sometimes sassy women who just happens to have the privilege of having two amazing babies and a wonderful hubby.
This blog is a just one of the ways that I have decided to start exploring myself again and getting out of my comfort zone to see what Laurent is really made of. I challenge you mommy’s out there to try something new today. Join that dance class that you have always wanted to join. Or start painting again or writing again. Whatever it is that you have been putting off because “I could never” or “I don’t have the time”. Explore yourselves, get to know yourselves outside of the mommy bubble. You might be surprised at the amazing things you could accomplish.
Leave a comment letting me know one thing you have always wanted to do or get back into. Let’s get to know each other. And by the way (incase no one has told you today), you are an amazing mommy (or daddy) . You are doing a great job ❤
Hello. My name is Laurent. I am a mommy of two. A working mom. And a wife. I was inspired to start a blog to share my experiences as a Mom to facilitate a safe space where moms can go and not feel judged and can have conversations about the wonderfully glorious, yet sometimes horrifying aspects of what it really means to be a Mom.
More to come ❤